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Healing the Heart – Defence Patterns & Compassion for Yourself

Iceberg Rose - Heart Chakra

With a prevailing watery, energetic environment and a focus on evolving relationships this June we could easily find ourselves involved in transforming old emotional wounds, especially those associated with the heart.

It is important that we recognise just how important it is for us to go with the flow on this one and allow anything that needs transformation, a non-judgemental space in which to realign. Should you happen to find yourself connecting with some old familiar heart wounds this month, take a breath, detach and observe what has been triggered.

Notice particularly the defence pattern or patterns that you unconsciously put in place to help you cope with the original pain, because it is these that will offer up the resistance to moving on.

Identifying Defence Patterns

Perhaps you experienced a lack of nurturing and loving acceptance as a child which still sits in your heart chakra as a painful memory. Feeling unloved as a small child does not provide emotional security or a sense of physical safety, so your coping strategy in this difficult situation might well have been to shut yourself off and to agree to do what everyone around you wanted to gain approval.

Many other patterns then get layered on top of this original set of defence patterns, including a lack of confidence and self-value as well as a misunderstanding about how to create positive personal boundaries in relationship situations. However, more important than any of these is the resulting inability to love and accept yourself exactly as you are, something that can easily pass unnoticed because it is just so unknown.

With a prevailing watery, energetic environment and a focus on evolving relationships this month we could easily find ourselves involved in transforming old emotional wounds.

Compassion for Yourself

When we are immersed in a stream of unconditionally loving energies of ever increasing intensity like those we are experiencing now, the heart naturally tries to open to receive the nurturing that this provides, however this also triggers those unconscious defence patterns that try to remind us that this might not be a safe thing to do, and look what happened when we tried that before, etc.

What will ultimately render all of those carefully accumulated defence patterns redundant, is allowing compassion and love for self to take precedence in your heart chakra. As the personality feels loved and secure it begins to trust again and then the old emotional wounding and related defence patterns will simply dissolve in the love that you are.

Remember, the universe has your back so just allow it to help you remember how to love yourself.

Heart Chakra Essences

There are lots of Essences that will help with all of the above, including of course the Heart Chakra Essence. You can find more Essence suggestions to help with Self-Love, Compassion & Acceptance here.


See also: Video: Let Your Heart Be Your Guide – Staying in Your Heart

Join Catherine & Jackie from Crystal Herbs for this heartfelt conversation about allowing your heart to be your guide. We describe how it feels when you’re in your heart and the reasons why it can be difficult to stay in that space.

Let Your Heart Be Your Guide – Staying in Your Heart

Catherine Keattch

Catherine is a director at Crystal Herbs and has been with us since the early 1990’s. She is a trained essence practitioner, energy healer, teacher and workshop leader. She loves creating vibrational essences and greatly enjoys making the mother tinctures that allow us to provide our wide range of flower, gem & crystal essences. Her passion is to provide the knowledge, wisdom and tools that will support others to find greater harmony, well-being and spiritual fulfilment in their lives.

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Michele Hancock
Michele Hancock
8 months ago

I am on my second Chakra essence and I cannot thank you enough for the support and change the essences give and the support from yourselves when I have the odd question or two about the process.

Crystal Herbs
6 months ago

That’s so lovely to hear and thank you so much for your feedback. The Sacral Chakra Essence is often a really interesting and transformative combination to use and it’s lovely to hear that you’ve found it helpful!