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Loving and Accepting Yourself: The Self Acceptance Essence

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Do you sometimes find it difficult to love and accept yourself fully? Deep down, do you have painful feelings of being unloved, unwanted or not good enough? Do you secretly believe that there’s parts of you that you need to change, ‘fix’ or hide in order to be loveable?

The Self Acceptance Essence

Our Self Acceptance Essence is a deep-acting combination of flower, gem & crystal essences ( from the Divine Harmony Essence range ) specifically designed to promote the ability to love and accept ourselves, without condition or restriction. It’s all about dissolving painful feelings of being unloved, unwanted, not good enough, or judging yourself.

Loving and accepting ourselves is a foundational part of the inner journey to remember who we are as a reflection of the love of Source. However, for many of us, the inability to accept ourselves as being worthy of love sits at the bottom of some very deep, old painful experiences.

Healing Deep Emotional Wounds and Hidden Traumas

As  our collective experience of the inner journey of transformation intensifies, we are healing the legacy of our deepest emotional wounds and hidden traumas. Part of that journey is to transform the deepest and most painful issue that has been with us for this lifetime and probably many others as well.

Many of us are being challenged to face our deep resistance to accepting ourselves as infinitely loveable, exactly as we are. This issue sits at the bottom of many deep, old and painful experiences, and makes it very difficult for us to release them until we are able to see this pattern for what it is: simply a long-held misperception.

The origins of not feeling loveable are not always conscious, but if we look back over our lives there is usually a string of experiences that we recognise as having triggered off this pattern many times. The feelings that accompany this pattern often seem to have been with us forever. These are the threads that hold the pattern in place, but we discover other related issues as we look more deeply and bring our awareness to them.

Not Feeling Worthy of Love – Unlearning What We Have Learned

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It might help to understand how this pattern is so common and pervasive, yet so little seen, so let’s take a moment to explore it some more.

In modern Western culture, there is generally little recognition of the value of a human soul and its uniqueness as a part of Creation. So when we come into a lifetime in a human body, there is no real honouring of who we are as a being. Instead, we are taught to fit into the rules and regulations of society, which typically means seeing yourself as separate and learning the game of conditional love in order to fit in.

Mainstream religion, education, healthcare systems and family structures all teach us to look outside of ourselves for what we need, so we learn not to value ourselves in any meaningful way. Within that social construct, we don’t have positive role models for unconditional love and acceptance of ourselves. We are not told that we are already perfect exactly as we are; we don’t receive the message that we are already infinitely loveable and infinitely loved.

We tend to be praised for outer achievements like academic success, working hard or fitting into the expectations of those around us, so our sense of value typically comes from what we do rather than who we are. Our identity becomes centred on our outer world so it is easily disrupted by difficult events like the loss of an important relationship or the ending of a job that we have invested a lot of ourselves into. At times like these, we can become very lost if our value and worth is entangled with what we no longer have in our lives.

There are multiple situations in life when we might find ourselves questioning our value and worth, from parenting to work to issues in our close relationships. Can you think of examples in your own life when you sense that you’ve done something wrong, or you feel deeply painful feelings of not being good enough, loved or wanted, or where you feel critical and intolerant of yourself? Each time that we can embrace these uncomfortable feelings, we can see this old, buried pattern more clearly and expand into greater love and acceptance for ourselves.

How to Dissolve Painful Feelings of Not Feeling Loveable

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When uncomfortable feelings are triggered, it’s a rich window of opportunity to make positive change. Resist the temptation to blame the outer event that triggered these feelings, take time to breathe, detach from the trigger, own the emotions, and create space for what needs to be seen to reveal itself. If we feel that the ‘problem’ or the ‘solution’ lies in something outside of us, we step away from our power and ability to make change. However, when we are wiling to open our hearts to ourselves and take ownership of our painful emotions, they quickly dissolve. Bless them and simply let them go. Replace them with positive loving thoughts about yourself and what you offer to the world.

Be very kind to yourself and notice if you have fallen into self-judgement or intolerance. Remember to love yourself for not always fully loving yourself! Remember to laugh and change the frequency so that you disrupt the pattern. The less we feed a pattern with attention the weaker it grows.

Take some essences to help you dissolve the old stories and imprint a new pattern that aligns more with your true self.  Essences are very effective for opening to the door to our hearts so that deep healing can take place because they help to dissolve our resistance to meeting the uncomfortable, painful or tender parts of ourselves. The Self Acceptance Essence has been specially formulated to transform deep resistance to accepting yourself as worthy of love.

The Self Acceptance Essence: Restoring Unconditionality

The Self Acceptance combination is a carefully selected blend of flower, gem & crystal essences designed to dissolve painful feelings of being unloved, unwanted, not good enough or judging yourself. As these old wounds dissolve, the essence will help you to remember that you were created from the love of Source and that you can never be separate from the Whole. From this perspective, it also becomes easier to recognise other people’s inherent value so our relationships with others become more loving and accepting too.

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Calcite Crystal Essence helps release unworthiness and amplifies soul energy and is one of the essences in the Self Acceptance combination.

The Self Acceptance combination is also a good essence to take if you’re feeling stuck and can’t see what is holding a difficult pattern in place. It is quite likely that the pattern sitting at the bottom of the issue is related to a difficulty with loving and accepting yourself. You feel stuck because the pattern is hiding just out of reach, but it will become more accessible and easier to shift as you take the essence.

This combination contains the following essences:

  • Ruby Red Rose for unconditional love, unity, forgiveness and compassion.
  • Calcite for releasing unworthiness and amplifying soul energy.
  • Gentle Hermione Rose holds a powerful focus on the vibrational frequency of unconditional love.
  • Chrysoprase is strengthening, uplifting and transformational.
  • Danburite illuminates buried issues and facilitates deep transformation.
  • Rhodonite promotes unconditional love, acceptance, harmony and balance.

Indications that Self Acceptance Essence could help you:

  • Difficulty seeing yourself as being worthy of love.
  • Easily triggered self-value issues.
  • Reluctance to open your heart to yourself.
  • A deep sense of being separate.
  • Issues with self-judgement & intolerance.
  • An inability to see that you are as good as others.

Self Acceptance Essence promotes:

  • Greater self-acceptance and the ability to love yourself unconditionally.
  • The ability to live from an open heart.
  • A deep understanding that you are enough just as you are.
  • A sense of being connected, loved & valued as a unique fractal of Creation.
  • Tolerance, gratitude and understanding.

Personal Insights on Self Acceptance Essence

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‘I’ve personally used this combination many times over the years to help me transform old painful feelings of being unloved or unwanted or when I notice that I have closed my heart to myself for some reason. I have also prescribed it for many clients and customers to help them successfully release similar painful emotions. It is an essence that is much needed at the moment to help us all transform the old patterns of separation so that we can co-create a new reality of love and peace.’  Catherine Keattch

How to use

An effective dose for most adults is four drops on the tongue 3 or 4 x a day, straight from the stock bottle. For best results take consistently for a period of two to four weeks. We don’t recommend taking any essences other than Bach Flower Remedies at the same time.

Self Responsibility Essence - 10ml and 25ml size bottles

Shop – Self Acceptance Essence

Essence Range: Divine Harmony Essences

Adult How to Use: Four drops on the tongue 3 – 4 x a day… Full How to Use

Essence Type: Flower, Gem & Crystal Essence Combination | Stock Level

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Share Your Experiences…

We hope you’ve enjoyed our exploration of the Self Responsibility Essence. We’d love to hear your experiences of working with this essence, so please do leave us a comment and share your experiences!

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Catherine Keattch

Catherine is a director at Crystal Herbs and has been with us since the early 1990’s. She is a trained essence practitioner, energy healer, teacher and workshop leader. She loves creating vibrational essences and greatly enjoys making the mother tinctures that allow us to provide our wide range of flower, gem & crystal essences. Her passion is to provide the knowledge, wisdom and tools that will support others to find greater harmony, well-being and spiritual fulfilment in their lives.

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