{"id":3747,"date":"2020-09-11T14:18:54","date_gmt":"2020-09-11T14:18:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.crystalherbs.com\/?p=3747"},"modified":"2020-09-11T14:52:31","modified_gmt":"2020-09-11T14:52:31","slug":"disarming-the-fear-of-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.crystalherbs.com\/index.php\/transformational-essence-stories\/disarming-the-fear-of-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Disarming the Fear of Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.crystalherbs.com\/images\/blogs\/Heart-Blooms.jpg\" alt=\"Hearts &amp; Roses  - Disarming the Fear of Love\" width=\"1000\" height=\"250\" title=\"Hearts &amp; Roses  - Disarming the Fear of Love\"\/>\r\n<p><strong>Guest post by Sharon Curran<\/strong><\/p>\r\n<p align=\"center\"><em>&ldquo;In a mirror is where we find a  reflection of our appearances, but in a heart is where we find a reflection of  our soul&rdquo; Unknown<\/em><\/p>\r\n<p>It&rsquo;s a funny thing love. We&rsquo;ve all  got a viewpoint on it. Some of us will think about it in the context of  relationships. The new age world will talk about it in terms of self-love and  raising your vibration. There are things we love to do, people we love, ways we  like to give and receive love. The list goes on and on. It&rsquo;s a powerful force.  In its purest form, it brings with it a feeling of oneness. A feeling that can  cure all ills. A feeling that makes all the wrongs right. It&rsquo;s what we all  strive to feel more of and yet, if love is the answer, why do so many of us  fear it?<\/p>\r\n<h2>Transforming Heavy  Fears into the Lightness of Love<\/h2>\r\n<p>We&rsquo;ve all been through something that  has broken us in some way. That&rsquo;s left scars that may not be visible to the  human eye. It&rsquo;s those scars that I talk about here. Whether you&rsquo;re on a  well-trodden path of self-mastery or just waking up to a desire for change, you  will, more than likely, reach a point where you will touch upon those deepest,  darkest, traumas that fear the very thing you equally crave. Heart Alchemy is  the processes of transforming those heavy fears into the lightness of love  again. For some of us those fears may have begun in childhood. You may have  felt emotionally neglected, rejected or suffered abuse. You may have turned the  sword in on yourself and decided you weren&rsquo;t good enough or loveable just as  you are. You may have had a blessed childhood and it was only when you reached  adulthood that you started to struggle. Maybe you have been betrayed in love or  left broken-hearted by a loss. Whatever the cause of your fear(s), it is  possible, over time, to reconnect with the magic and wonder of love once more.<\/p>\r\n<p>This sharing is a personal one. It&rsquo;s  a sharing from my heart of the essences that have been my trusted companions  over the years as I&rsquo;ve sought to disarm my own wounds around love. Fears that  stem from the trauma of heart-breaking experiences and protective, hidden,  fears that were telling me it wasn&rsquo;t safe to love because of all the painful  things it can bring&#8230; loss, abandonment, rejection, grief and more.<\/p>\r\n<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.crystalherbs.com\/images\/blogs\/Hand-Flowers.jpg\" alt=\"Lightness of Love\" width=\"351\" height=\"259\"\/ class=\"imageRight\" title=\"Lightness of Love\"\/>\r\n<h2>Clearing the Heart  Chakra<\/h2>\r\n<p>Why embark on this journey? I have  found that the clearer and freer the pathways are within my heart, the more  able I am to tune into the guidance of my soul and listen less to the noise in  my head. As I bring back into the fold all those parts of my personality that  felt unlovable, hurt and rejected, the more whole I feel. The freer I feel. The  more peace I feel. The Heart Chakra is the fulcrum of the energy flow through  the whole body so when unprocessed emotional trauma gets trapped within the  heart centre, it&rsquo;s easy to understand the impact this can have on you  energetically, mentally, physically and spiritually. It may be a surrendering  so intense you feel as if you are dying but essences have really helped me to  remember that, in truth, I am not. I am letting go to let in. Breaking down to  breakthrough.<\/p>\r\n<h3>Inner Child Essences<\/h3>\r\n<p>An amazing range of essences that I  have been using and supporting clients with for nearly 20 years. We develop an  unconscious template of what love is, based on the way we are treated by our  parents\/caregivers before the age of 7. If you are wanting to break free from  some of these traits and beliefs, then these are my standard go-to essences for  self-esteem, self-worth and self-love issues as well as deeper shadow work.  Freeing the Inner Child from the pain of the past is incredibly transformative  when it comes to matters of the heart.<\/p>\r\n<h3>Inner Child Peace<\/h3>\r\n<p>Peace is for releasing and transforming  shock and trauma that occurs during our early years. This essence restores a  sense of peace where once there was anxiety, jitteriness and fear. When you  feel more at peace you feel more able to go into those painful places inside  that the younger you is holding on to. <a href=\"https:\/\/shop.crystalherbs.com\/Inner-Child-Essences\/Peace__p-83-315.aspx\">Inner Child Peace<\/a><\/p>\r\n<h3>Inner Child Love<\/h3>\r\n<p>I recommend this essence whenever  there has been an absence or lack of love in childhood. That love may not have  been enough or it may have been in the form that didn&rsquo;t meet your needs. This  essence floods our energy system with the vibration of unconditional love. This  may feel unfamiliar, perhaps even repulsive, but over time, you will notice a  change, a softening, to feel safe enough to begin the process of letting go. In  turn, you will come to understand the impact your early experiences may have  had on you and your adult relationships so you can make new choices going  forward as you reparent your unloved inner child. <a href=\"https:\/\/shop.crystalherbs.com\/Inner-Child-Essences\/Love__p-83-311.aspx\">Inner Child Love<\/a><\/p>\r\n<h3>Karmic Essence Fuchsia<\/h3>\r\n<p>This essence is wonderful for adult  complex emotional trauma and clearing of old emotions from the heart. When you  have been bombarded with one trauma after another and you can&rsquo;t see the wood  for the trees, this essence makes sense of all the emotions you are feeling so  that you can release pent up anger and frustration, move past overwhelm and  tend to the core wounds with gentleness and love. <a href=\"https:\/\/shop.crystalherbs.com\/Karmic-Flower-Essences\/Fuchsia---Flower-Essence__p-73-123.aspx\">Fuchsia &#8211; Karmic Essences<\/a><\/p>\r\n<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.crystalherbs.com\/images\/essences\/Emotional-Body-Essence.jpg\" alt=\"Emotional Body Essences\" width=\"168\" height=\"249\" class=\"imageRightM\" title=\"Emotional Body Essences\" \/>\r\n<h3>Rainbow Light Body Essences \u2013  Emotional Body<\/h3>\r\n<p>A range of powerful essences that  assist in the development and activation of one&rsquo;s Light body. This may be  perceived as more advanced work but I have found it to be a great go to when  there are buried emotional patterns that you can&rsquo;t quite get to the nub of or  they get stuck and keep coming up over and over again. Trauma energy can be  like this. Especially helpful if you are afraid of your emotions and are  subconsciously pushing them away. Great alongside trauma release work. <a href=\"https:\/\/shop.crystalherbs.com\/Rainbow-Light-Body-Essences\/Emotional-Body-Essence__p-84-257.aspx\">Emotional Body &#8211; Light Body Essences<\/a><\/p>\r\n<h3>Heartfelt Forgiveness<\/h3>\r\n<p>Anger, bitterness and resentment  often accompany wounds of the heart. Whether you&rsquo;re being called to forgive  others or yourself, this is a beautiful combination essence that goes deep into  your heart.&nbsp;Forgiveness isn&rsquo;t about condoning someone&rsquo;s behaviour towards  you, it&rsquo;s about freeing yourself from the torture of holding on. Often when we  can step outside of our own pain, we are more able to see the pain (and  possibly trauma) in another that may explain the internal drivers behind their  behaviour. This clarity and understanding can help you to feel less victimised  and prone to blame so you can move on to forgiveness.  Self-forgiveness is about learning to love and accept yourself exactly as you  are instead of continually beating yourself up for being less than  perfect.<a href=\"https:\/\/shop.crystalherbs.com\/Rose-Collection-Essences\/Heartfelt-Forgiveness__p-80-269.aspx\">Heartfelt Forgiveness &#8211; Rose Collection Essences<\/a><\/p>\r\n<h3>Self-Acceptance Essence<\/h3>\r\n<p>An amazing combination essence to  support unconditional self-acceptance and the ability to love yourself. The  soul communicates through the heart so when we are more able to love and accept  ourselves non- judgmentally and unconditionally, the more light from our soul  can shine through unrestricted. <a href=\"https:\/\/shop.crystalherbs.com\/Divine-Harmony-Essences\/Self-Acceptance-Essence__p-100-867.aspx\">Self Acceptance &#8211; Divine Harmony Essences<\/a><\/p>\r\n<p>Buddhist Teacher, Pema Chodron,  writes in her book &lsquo;Practicing Peace&rsquo; &ldquo;there&rsquo;s a teaching that says behind all  hardening and tightening and rigidity of the heart, there&rsquo;s always fear. But if  you touch fear, behind fear there is a soft spot. And if you touch that soft  spot, you find the vast blue sky. You find that which is ineffable, ungraspable  and unbiased, that which can support and awaken us at any time&rdquo;<\/p>\r\n<p>From my heart to yours, I send you  love and may you have the courage to disarm your fears and reopen your heart to  love in all its forms. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\">Guest post by Sharon Curran &ldquo;In a mirror is where we find a reflection of our appearances, but in a heart is where we find a reflection of our soul&rdquo; Unknown It&rsquo;s a funny thing <a class=\"mh-excerpt-more\" href=\"https:\/\/blog.crystalherbs.com\/index.php\/transformational-essence-stories\/disarming-the-fear-of-love\/\" title=\"Disarming the Fear of Love\">[&#8230;]<\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":3752,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[519],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3747","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-transformational-essence-stories","8":"wpautop"},"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v17.8 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Disarming the Fear of Love | Flower Essence Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"It\u2019s a funny thing love, some of us will think about it in the context of relationships. 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